Ways to get sex

So when she says i dont wanna be touched...

Im not in the mood...

Etc...

Theres plenty of ways to change that.

The worst you can do is fail.  And you already werent having sex.  So theres really nothing to lose.

The key is to not be too aggressive out the gate; scale up.  Use physch progression, not physical.  Dont turn her off or piss her off by going too fast, by being too wimpy, or by being incomgruent or whatever the word is for when you talk and its not smooth.  Like how Erica always says shit thats off or two needy or over the top... you want to come across as cool and smooth.

So, add to this list with time:

1.  Get your hard dick out next to her face and tell her to suck it.

" im not in the mood."

Thats when you hold it there and maybe stroke it a little and say "i know you want it."

The key here is super confidence, no matter what she says you keep pushing in a non aggro and funny and charming way.

"Jaimie i said NO"

'I know you said no but dick is one of your favorite things.  Why not give it a little lick?"

'Jaimie!  Youre really bugging me right now'

'I bet if you put it in your mouth youre gonna be happy i did.  You have no idea what youre missing"

"Seriously stop now"

'Okay but if you dont put this thang in your mouth your gonna be sorry... im going to fuck you soo hard later'

Etc.  They key here is to have fun with this confident, cocky character.  Maybe have a rule, 5 nos with no sign of any attraction and you stop.  Going in with a goal of getting 5 nos will help overcome the insecurities.

If she starts, thats when you turn up the heat.

Say she licks it and says "there.  Happy?"

'No, put it in your mouth.' And push it towards her lips.

She sucks it once and complains

"Open your mouth" and shove it in.

Once shes really started (and keep in mind, just cuz she originally said no a couple of times does NOT mean she didnt want it.  If you pursuaded her, theres nothing rapey about it) you turn it up another few notches.

Grab the back of her head and make her deep throat it.

Make her gag.

Call her a slut.

Etc.  Command her from there.

Just make sure you never get mad.  Command her out of authority, never anger.  Anger is little boy style and wont work for dominance.  Authority is what wins deals.

See Related Videos

This is a pretty basic rapport building video that shows you how to use the standard topics of conversation in the most effective ways.

What's interesting is the related videos that come up are things like:
"8 Practical First Impression Techniques"
&
"10 Psychological Signs a Girl Likes you"

... which I'm sure branch out to tons of more videos.  It's a wealth of social dynamics and attraction training.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vU-ibdHkz4Y

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Use me. Take me with no regard for my pleasure or comfort.

Use me. i exist to please and satisfy You.

Use me. Degrade me and take away any dignity i may have had.

Use me. Fuck me as hard as You please until You cum wherever You’d like.

Use me. Pregnancy risk is my problem, not Yours.

Use me. Unleash Your anger and frustrations on me.

Use me. i am an object to be used and displayed as You see fit.

Use me. Transform me into Your dream girl.

Use me. Relax as i take care of all domestic needs.

Use me. Make me feel pain in exchange for Your pleasure.

Use me. Show me my real place in this world.

Use me. Claim me as Your own.

Use me. i exist to receive Your bodily fluids.

Use me. Change my life forever by impregnating me.

Use me. Make my tits leak milk like a dirty cow.

Use me. Get inside my head and fuck me up however You’d please.

Use me. Condition me to always be ready for Your cock.

Use me. Physically correct me when i have misbehaved…or when You feel like it.

Use me. Demand i serve Your every need.

Use me. You know what’s best for me.

Use me. Give my life a purpose.

Yes…..Men, are you listening? We want all of you to “Use Me.” Every guy needs to use us girls this way. So many of us cunts are begging you.

Laid it on a little thick

Txt later will be "hey ill text you around 10 your time so i dont accidently wake you.  Keep an eye out for it.  And I thought about you all week long."

BOOM.  Thats what we call heavy push pull.

Strategy At Large:

Go easy on the super high status moves.  Going to come across as non-genuine and weak.

The real fight is for reprogramming her complaints and challenges... just got to keep communicating that i dont care what she thinks and be witty and funny in my responses to her bullshit.

Its applying the status game to the conversation, not the subject matter.  You can say i care about you a ton, youre just a pain in the ass is all.  For instance :).  Dont take away the love, just balance it with status.

How to be a Dom

Dom is completely, totally tied into status.  You CANNOT have Dom without high status.  You can have high status without Dom.

High status is essentially a pre-requistic for Dom.

Imagine this:

You've charmed her.  You've got her playing into you.  You're making her try to impress you and do things for you.  She's like a frustrated guy doing whatever she has to do to be with you.

You fly her in.  Shes in your house, lazily being lame doing something.  You look at her and say something like this:

And as you say that, you are walking towards her and looking down into her eyes.  When she says "Cool?!?" in reply at the end you reach around and grab her ass as you smile at her.  You give it a hard smack and walk away.

That is the beginning of being a true Dom.  You play the high status roll and drive up the attraction and then you start making demands in a way where she wants to comply.

And then the demands evolve into commands.

:)

Mindfulness

From Sam Harris

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iwac6Uk-zyk

Thinking is indispensable to us, but that being said we're usually thinking without knowing that we're thinking (on the order of something like 99.9% of the time).

And this automaticity is kind of the way we do everything, it's like the very fabric of our experience.  

It's distorting our lives and our emotions, it engineers our unhappiness in every moment because most of what we think is quite unpleasant.  We're judging ourselves, we're judging others, we're worrying about the future, we're regretting the past, we're at war with our experience (in subtle or course ways) and much of this self talk is unpleasant and diminishing our happiness in every moment.

And so meditation is a tool for cutting through that.  It's interrupting this continuous conversation that we are having with ourselves.

Then there's things that we DON'T NOTICE when we're lost in thought -- for instance, 

EVERY experience & emotion ISN'T here anymore.

It arises and it passes away.  

If it comes back in the present moment by virtue of your thinking about it, it'll subside again when you are no longer thinking about it.

This is something people tend not to notice because rather than merely feel an emotion, we spend our time thinking about all the reasons why we have the right to feel the way we do (or thinking about all the things justify the feeling.)

The conversation keeps this emotion in play for much, much longer than its natural half-life.

And if you are able, through mindfulness, to interrupt this conversation, and simply witness the feeling as it arises, you'll find that you can't maintain it for more than a few moments at a time.  

If you think you can feel something for a day, or even an hour, without continually manufacturing it by thinking without knowing that you're thinking, then you are mistaken.  

And this is something that you can just witness for yourself:  This is the objective truth about the nature of experience and it's testable with a little mindfulness.

THE WUSS CURE

From some older advanced series notes

"THE WUSS CURE:
-Put some distance between her and you. Start seeing her half as often or less
-Call her once for every time she sees you
-Get a life of your own and stop acting like her servant
-Start seeing other women
-Start focusing on the bad behaviors that got you where you are now and think of how to avoid them in the future"

The last point is the one I need.  Bad Behaviors:

• BEHAVIOR: Talking About Myself.
• HOW TO AVOID: When you catch, snap right out of this and put her to the test: "If were going to keep being friends, I expect you to put in some effort.  I'm not just going to do all the talking, what kind of friendship is that.  Tell me something about your classes, days, dates, or I'm going to do something more productive.  My time is valuable, you know."
  
• BEHAVIOR: Neediness -- "I need you to talk to me more often"
• HOW TO AVOID: Set the tone right away that you can't talk long because your time is too rare and there's shows you want to watch, friends you want to talk to, comedy you want to see, and other things you want to do.
  
  Do this by saying at the beginning of ANY conversation with sarah that you want to keep this call fairly short (don't define a time... if she asks say 15-30 min at most... once i realize we're over an hour I'm hanging up on you immediately)
  
• BEHAVIOR: Talking about, evaluating, analysing our relationship.
• HOW TO AVOID: Treat her as a friend.  Say, "You know, I think the whole girlfriend thing just confused me a lot.  I still love you and I like us as friends, let's just keep things simple and not worry about talking a lot, if we talk a lot that's fine but we're both trying to build our lives right now and so the more time we spend apart the better really.
  
• BEHAVIOR: Reacting to her emotions, tests, etc.
• RELATED: The test she's been pushing where she makes me feel like I'm in an impossible situation of needing to be nice to her but also not wanting to be a wuss and just give in to her feelings.
• HOW TO AVOID: Look at her emotions the same way you'd look at Chris when he gets frustrated.  Or your little sister.  Or a brat.  No more Mr. Nice Guy -- now you're the prize and you care about her but you don't have time for her BS and need to get to the bottom of it or get out.
  
  It's time to stop being ruled by this one.  You DON'T have to be nice.  You DO have to be authoritative.
  
  Say, "Sarah, I want to be nice to you, but you're being ridiculous right now.  Explain what your upset about so I can better understand you."
  
  Start using your own NLP on her.  NOT "Why are you mad?" INSTEAD "Is this worth being upset about?  What are you really bothered by?"
  GO ALL 7 DIRECTIONS IN YOUR HEAD UNTIL YOU FIND AN EFFECTIVE REFRAME!
  
• ALL OTHERS -- Any problem you have with Sarah is like a troll or obstacle -- all you have to do is stop reacting, start thinking smart and be willing to push through the wall that is your comfort zone, and FIND THE OPPORTUNITY.
• All the above are opportunities.  And I came up with them on the spot.  There's more where they came from.  Find the opportunities and put them on this blog moving forward.

And that is how you end attraction week -- with the future commitment to this blog.  Attraction Week marks the true beginning of Age 2, with or without Sarah.  

From the ashes rises the phoenix, even if there's a gap coming up in the progression of age 2, I want to know that it has begun and it began with a great status failure and this blog as it's recourse.  

And I want to remember to bring future Age 2 work back to THIS blog, no matter how far in the future it may lie.  

Yes but donot MENTION the friends thing

Assume you're just friends now but don't bring it up.

Again that shows flappability and low status.  High status is "hadn't even thought of it but yeah now that you mention it I agree..."

Fri morning just text asking if she wants to talk tonight cuz i went on a tinder date aND I would like to tell her about it.  (Use the word tell, NOT the worday talk.)

If she says no just say okay and nothing else, then go drinking with LEAF.  that's why text early so you know if you can make the brew tour or not.

If no response just hit her up at 2pm to get an answer cuz you'd like to talk to her but you were just invited out for drinks.

Go Back to Being Friends

As a friend, she can still come down to visit, and we might end up getting physical anyways.

As a girlfriend, I have to wonder why she talks to me 1 hour a week.  That's a pretty garbage girlfriend.

I am not going to pretend to be her boyfriend when she doesn't even want to talk to me.  That's just dumb.

It's a lot more authoritative, confident, and high status to tell her that we're not in that kind of relationship... than it is to be scared of losing something that doesn't exist.

Do you have the balls to be honest with yourself?

Do you have the balls to face this world without her?

Honestly... do you even NEED to have that person that you are super close to, who you can say anything to?

I think at first, you did... but only because you'd been missing it for so long.  But now you are disciplined.  Sean Walker was just selling you -- you don't NEED a girlfriend to support you while you grow your business.

You can get your re-time handled in other ways.

And hey, there's always tinder.  Or fuck, maybe even a real relationship on Match wouldn't hurt, now that you have experience setting honest expectations right out the gate.

You don't need Sarah.  If anything, right now, you need to be away from her.  I know it's tough, but being with her isn't easy anymore.  If you want to be with her, I think you NEED to do it as friends, not boyfriend / girlfriend.  And you're good friends.

Date with Kristi

FROM RotE: 

"

Well, fucking mad props on going on a tinder date within 24 fucking hours of attraction week beginning.  The pride and power here is much greater than you know.

Sure, some things to be learned here, but the majority is just going to be the experience itself, the muscle memory and comfort zone stretching of putting what you learned into practice.

You matched the customer as best you could.  It was never going to happen with that one.  Being genuine, honest, and brave out the gate with your communication may appear to be punished at first, however the truth is it sets you up to learn the most valuable lessons instead of the wrong ones.

Instead of thinking "how did I not close that kiss?" it's obvious that you told her outright you weren't what she was looking for and you can instead focus on the lesson of "maybe using 'hey' as your tinder opener and asking relationship-type questions isn't going to reel in the kind of women you are after".

Also, it grows your comfort zone of being honest and straightforward to pursue only what you REALLY want -- after all, if you can argue with an abused, serious, A-type personality on her philosophy to defend your position... you can hold your ground with anyone.  She makes saying that stuff to Steph look like a cake walk.

Very glad you did it, very good growth and progression, very good status gain and return to glory.  Fuck man, you got a tinder date out the goddamn gate... you just gotta learn how to up your tinder game a little (which is NOT hard, you're a salesman, remember?) and your escalation game on dates and you will be rock solid.

There is no downside.  Remember that.  I might be even more tired tomorrow and not gotten anywhere with girl #1, but this is a solid net gain.  Remember your true path is happiness and any dates for you right now are giant steps forward.  Good job.

"

Early in the AM

It's funny how quickly the greater truth can come when you get new information.

Waking up in the AM to an epiphany sucks, but hey.

Now I need to sleep and take back control.  And that means being in charge of my feelings.  The only way to be this dominant man is to start acting like one.

So from here I am going to make a commitment, and then meditate, and then catch the "Sarah Trolls" as they arrive in my mind and put them back in the box.

NOW that you have the truth... CLARITY AT LAST.  No more needing endless hours of chatter.  I needed those before... I needed to go crazy and question everything 1000 times a day... because I was lost and confused.  I needed to know.

And now that I know, I can go ahead and keep everything in the box.  10 thoughts a day can replace 1000.  I don't need the 1000 any more because now I already know.

So with this clarity in mind -- and the path of attraction retraining ahead of me -- it's time to set myself free and gain power.

Where I am, and my Commitment

The best way to describe where I am is through an analogy.

Where I am with my relationship and attraction is comparable to trying to be a top sales rep as a 2-3 size person... and if Sarah has been a "size 3-4", this is compared to a 4-5 that I used to be.

It's THAT small.  But with this clarity comes an AMAZING OPPORTUNITY.

That means it will be VERY EASY to regain size now that I have clarity.

Now that I "get it", it's really as simple as embracing feelings, shutting down thoughts, and talking to Sarah the way an attractive person would.  There's really not much to it.

Just look at my advice going in... which was like "bro you need to use 'push-pull'."  lol... that's like trying to close a deal saying 'bro you just need to tell them 3% and when they say its not just ask them if they want the deal or not and walk away'.  It's reflective of your tiny size.

SO... MY COMMITMENT:

I will not reach out to Sarah until the end of the "Attraction Retrain" week.  I will put all thoughts about her into a box (and write them in a post on this blog if necessary) and keep them out of my mind - they will be treated as trolls - opportunities to reprogram and absorb.  By absorbing them with mindfulness I will gain power, confidence, security, and become an attractive man once again.

If and when I do speak with her, I will keep it short (end the call within 15 minutes) and practice the principals of attraction.

The Email to Myself

The further I get from this relationship and the more I practice the principles of attraction... the more I see how far we've come.

First she shut down on me. She put me on the outside. I don't know what feelings she has... I don't know what her struggles are... I don't know what's going on in her shows... I don't know anything she really cares about... Because she's faking around me and everything that she tells me is carefully chosen from a place of Defense.

From there... to where we are now... Now there's no respect anymore. Now she doesn't care about me. She could care less about talking to me or holding any commitment towards me. She treats me like I'm some invading force in her life.

I think it comes down to that weekend. And everything after period that weekend she lost trust for me she became uncomfortable because I was insecure. As long as she's uncomfortable and I'm insecure there will be nothing but fighting. The only way to save this relationship is for me to be secure and stable... To be attractive again... and that means walking away. That means putting her to a decision asking her what she really wants from a place of respect and appreciation.

I need her to reach out to me... And when she does I need to test her I need to make her put in effort in to save it... I need her to earn me because I'm worth it. No more acting like I'm entitled to it.  No more letting my neediness feelings drive me out of the relationship.  If I don't make a hard 180 in the way I respond to my feelings and stop letting them control me this will end incredibly soon.

Don't send her this email yet. Just start admitting the truth. Talk to T. Study and practice attraction. Bear through your feelings for a few days. Give Sarah the chance to reach out to you without you being the one trying to save the relationship. Assume that the relationship is dead and that she wants to save it... And wait for her to reach out to try... and when she does you will have this email ready.

If it goes over a week, and you're done with your attraction retrain, at that point you'll be ready to send an email like this or make a phone call.

Be bold. Be strong. Be a man. And you'll have the chance to get her back maybe. Being willing to walk away and put her to the test is the only way to save this. Good luck!

Mistakes NOT TO MAKE Now that you "Know"

How to approach:

Call Sarah when you're ready, and do ANYTHING, talk about ANYTHING (ideally with a couple news stories, work stories, etc. in your back pocket, especially if they're embedded with attractive traits) and simply do it in a way that's attractive.  

Wait for the tests, and when they come simply pause, think about what an attractive, dominant, in-control, leader of the pack MAN would do in response, and then do or say THAT response.

DO NOT:

1. REACH OUT TO HER OFTEN.  

• You need more time.  You need to practice this stuff in your mind more first.  You need to put distance between the old you and the new you that you are about to create.
• You MUST let your endless obsessive thinking and over-attachment fizz out more.  The less you talk to her, the more opportunity you have to grow your indifference to her.

2. DO NOT DO the following things when you DO talk to her:

• Do Not React to Her Reactions -- the qualities David D teaches are solid.  If she reacts negatively, simply change the topic.  Don't get reeled into her game.  Just don't acknowledge it, seriously -- you're doing nothing wrong, and you refuse to be bothered by her negativity any more.
• "Never give a woman a direct answer, unless it's no"  This can be difficult and frustrating to the woman, but it's powerful.  Answer questions with questions.  Don't give her approval.
• Talk about YOU in any way, shape, or form.  
• What you're up to
• What you're working on
• What you're making
• You're business
• THE ONLY EXCEPTION is your tinder profile.
• Apologize.
• Explain how you've been unattractive and how you get it now.
• Show her this blog.
• Point out ANY past mistakes.
• Say anything with regards to how you're doing things differently now.
• Bring up past mistakes.
• Talk about the past.
• Talk about your relationship.
• Keep your phone near you in case she texts.
• Respond right away.
• You must gain true indifferent to whether she texts you or not.  This has to be programmed constantly and will develop over time.  And it's CRUCIAL that you keep your eyes OFF the phone during the whole thing or you'll undermine it.

My obsessive thinking with regards to Sarah is fueled by my being overly invested in the idea that time together is important to the relationship (it's a neutral - it can go either way), the idea that I need her or I need love, that it will hurt too much not to talk to her, etc, etc, etc.

The above shows how silly this attitude is.  IT DOESN'T MATTER!  Attraction and status are based on indifference, fearlessness, confidence, pride-in-oneself, and an aloof attitude towards others.

So to be obsessively needing her is the EXACT OPPOSITE: You care so much it's concerning, you're afraid and overly invested, you're cheap and easy, insecure, and miserably worthless.

Instead of needing the relationship, convey that you DON'T need the relationship.  That your tired of her attitude problems.  That you're not going to take her shit any more.  AND DO THAT IN A WAY THAT IS NON-AGGRESSIVE, NON-DEFENSIVE, NON-FEARFUL, NON-COMBATIVE.

Just start going off the wall.  When she puts up a challenge take her down a detour.  If she says shes serious just say "That's good that your serious, and it's okay to feel that way."... and go back to doing whatever YOU want to do.

DO NOT GET TRAPPED.  You can always lead it somewhere you want to go.  Your job is to stop getting stuck in the bathroom and to start driving the bus again.

NLP: Doing all this, reviewing it, practicing it, and spending time now working on it will be EASIER and LESS TIME CONSUMING than the alternative.

The alternative is endless obsessive thinking about Sarah.

It's worrying a lot and being in a constant pain.

It's draining your energy and ability to work by burning your willpower on worrying about this stuff.

You will get more work done at home and with ROARS if you feel comfortable in your re-time.  And in this particular period of your life (that is to say, September 2016), you need to grow your attraction so that you don't have this huge energy hole burning it's way through your mind.

So not only will this free up your willpower energy levels, but the extra energy will save you time long-term.

DYD Adv S: Qualities of The LEADER

The dominant leader "of the pack" does the following:

• He doesn't look to others for approval.  Instead he does what HE DECIDES is the right thing.  
• He moves forward without signs of fear or self-doubt or cowardice.
• He always lives in his own world, his own reality; And he doesn't let out-side events destabilize him or take him off track.
• He holds and carries himself in a naturally confident way, and always projects AUTHORITY in everything that he does and says.

Qualities:

• Slightly over-confidence that's charming and funny.
• Just think, what's the OPPOSITE of weak, ass-kissing, passive men?
• If a woman accuses you of arrogance that's typically a good thing.  The better you are at generating attraction, usually the more you'll get of it.  Of course it matters how she says it but it's a strong rule of thumb.  Just say "I'm glad you like it" -- usually they wouldn't even point it out if it was a negative.
• Leadership - not needing her approval.  How you dress, what you drink, etc -- example "I don't like your shirt" --> Leader says, 'Well, I like it, and I don't really care what you think about it...'
• Or even better, he jokes, "Tell you what -- I'll trade you." (blowing it off lol)
• "well... why don't you take it off me then?"
• LACK OF INSECURITY (there is no "confidence").
• Dominance (not domineering) -- being in control of other people, meaning that you tell other people what to do and they comply.
• Control (not controlling) -- always acting like your in control of the situation.
• Selfishness -- you can be both selfish and generous at the same time -- demanding the best and expecting the best for yourself.  I'm going to do what I WANT to do, because why would I do things that I don't want to do.
• Composure & "unflappability" -- When challenge, leaders DO NOT lose their cool -- they don't act intense, nervous, argumentative, etc.  This is a common downfall.
• Having the attitude that you don't need to apologize or excuse yourself for anything.  There's no need to apologize because it's all just fine and you're completely comfortable.
• Pickiness / Being very selective.  Ask for what you want, the way you want it.  Talk about things you don't like.  The more picky you are, the more attractive you'll become.
• Judgmental -- The more judgmental you are (implying that you are the ultimate authority) the more attractive you are.  NOT insecure or upset or moral judgments.  Talking intelligently and saying things that are true, that you can back up -- like pointing out someone making a mistake.
• Not accepting second class behavior.

DYD Adv S: 5 Attitudes

1. "There is no downside".

There really is nothing to lose at any time with a woman.  There is no risk - and if you perceive that there is risk, it will destroy you -- it'll make you weak & tentative.

2. "I'm indifferent to the outcome".

If [whatever you want] doesn't happen, it really doesn't matter.  If you care, you'll be trying to not screw it up.  When you don't care, it's magnetic.

3. "I'm a catch, and time with me is rare and valuable."

If you spend time with a woman, she is ALWAYS getting the better end of the deal.  She's benefiting more than I am.  I'm the one who's worked on being charming and entertaining, so she's gonna be getting more value out of me than I am of her.

4. "She wants me, but I'm going to tease her to see how much."

Always know that she wants you.  Even if she's being standoff-ish, you know she WILL want you once she comes around to you.  And I want to see how much before I even decide to invest my time in her... I'm not just going to go for anything.

5. "She's going to have to PROVE that she's above average."

When Combined...

...It creates a cocky, indifferent, aloof air to your personality.  It really "turns up" the parts of your personality that show that you are confident, powerful, in control of the situation, and don't need anything.

You can always reframe and turn things around that implicate that she wants you, that she has a dirty mind, that she cares too much, that she's taking up your time without bringing anything to the table.

Nothing to talk about?  Ask her what she wants to talk about.  This implies she's boring you, and not the other way around.  If you can follow that up with an interesting story, all the better.  Then say, okay, I shared a story, what do you got?  If she's got nothing, then you can say, "You know, sarah, sometimes its like all you do is use me to entertain you."

Lost Status 11 Months Into a Relationship

I got too needy.

I needed love every day.  I needed my nightly call.  I needed her to reach out to me.

Losing status is a lot more than that though.  It's being afraid of how you might make her feel.  It's keeping your phone on you in case she texts.  It's being frustrated in general.

The high status man doesn't worry, because he's got nothing to worry about.  He knows she'll come to him when she needs him.

The idea that I need to reach out to her so she'll feel love/appreciated or so that the relationship won't die from neglect is just silly.  If she feels unloved she'll let me know.  If she needs me she'll reach out to me.  If the relationship is dying because she doesn't want to talk, the truth is it's already dead or dying, and the best thing you can do is wait.

Other things:

-Never bring up a problem -- there's no reason to keep talking about issues that you've had... bringing it up just reinforces the negative and creates bad feelings, resistance, and kills the mood.  It'll ruin a relationship the same way it would ruin a sale.  If it needs to be discussed, at least let her be the one to bring it up!!

-Being a man is about being in control of your problems.  If she's your problem and you're dependent on her to fix it, that's the lowest status position you can be in.